Life just couldn't get any worse...

TJ broke up with me yesterday. He was supposed to pick me up like usual Thursday night, but I waited and waited and waited and he never did come get me. I was obviously extremely mad, worried, and confused all at the same time. He's never broken a promise to me. Plus, he didn't even bother calling me to let me know he couldn't make it for whatever reason. So, I was a mess all Thursday night. I called him numerous times on his cell phone without getting ahold of him. So, I decided to look up his brother's number since I'd met him and his wife once and I knew that TJ visited them a lot. I never got an answer there either, so I figured I had the wrong number. Then I decided to look up his work phone and call that to see what time he left work Thursday night. His boss said around the usual time, 12 pm. He could tell I was upset and he said he'd tell TJ to call me as soon as he got in. Well, I spent all day crying and calling TJ, completely clueless. My dad had the idea to just go to his house, but of course, I had no idea how to get there because of my wonderful directions ability. So, my dad said to try Papa John's again to see if they could tell me his address. I did, but apparently when TJ worked there he was still in the process of moving and had put his and his ex's old address. So, when 5:30 (when he was supposed to come into work) rolled around I waited for him to call and he never did, so I called him on his cell again without success. Then I decided to call Papa John's again. He was just getting into work at this time. I was put on hold by this girl and then got "disconnected." Later I found out TJ had just hung up. So, I called back and TJ got on and said, "NEVER call up here!" and hung up. I tried racking my brain but I could not for the life of me figure out what in the world I had done to upset him so much. I didn't know why he was treating me this way. So, my dad decides to take me all the way to Cumberland because he said, if anything, I deserved an explanation. So, we finally found the place and, by now more mad than anything, I storm in and ask for TJ. I look back and I see him folding boxes and he looks up and sees me. After giving me this look like he wanted nothing more for me to die on the spot, he just kept working like I wasn't there. Then I just start bawling and he finally stops folding boxes and starts to go for a run. He leans over me and says, "I'm going for a run. Call me." I keep crying as he's walking out and he turns to me again and says, "Sweetheart, just call." Now, he did say "sweetheart" but his tone wasn't any more kind, so I didn't know what to think. But I call him and after all day, he finally answers. I ask him what I did to deserve all this and he says that during our last conversation on the phone around 10 pm Thursday I said something that royally pissed him off. That still told me nothing. I asked what I said that was so horrible and he said, "Nobody tells me where I can and can't take my kids." It took me a moment, but I finally realized what he was talking about. It was so absurd that I almost laughed. See, we were talking about honeymoons and he had told me that when his mom remarried she had taken the kids with them on her honeymoon. I said lightheartedly, "Well, if we ever get married, those kids are not coming on the honeymoon." And I laughed because I was trying to make a joke out of the idea of taking 6 kids on a honeymoon. But, apparently this upset him. But instead of letting me know this, he continued talking to me and then said, "Well, sweetie, I need to let my phone charge. I'll call you in a bit." Well, obviously he never did call me back. He stood me up completely. So that was his initial reason for being upset. He claimed that he had just needed time to cool down and that he was going to call me later. But when he found out that I had called his work (apparently I got his boss a little worried too and he called TJ) then it made him even more mad because he says he will not mix work and pleasure. He said he still planned on talking to me about it, but my actually coming to his work was "the biggest mistake" I could have ever made. I told him he had left me with no other choice and that I was worried and desperate. He said, "No, desperate is calling my family. This is insanity." So, apparently I did get his brother's number right... The way I see it is he was refusing to talk to me and I knew for a fact he was mad when he hung up on me and I figured if we were over, I had a right to know what the hell I did. So, I asked him, "So, what does that mean? Are you breaking up with me?" He said, "We can work on being friends, but no, I don't want to be with you." I start crying again and ask if he loved me at all. He didn't say anything which was answer enough for me. Then he says, "Of course I love you." I said since we both love each other and this was just a misunderstanding we should work it out. He didn't say anything and I thought he had hung up on me before he finally spoke. He said, "I will call you later and we'll talk." So, I said, "So, does that mean we're not over yet?" He said again, "We will talk. But, you're best bet is to go home." I asked when he would call and he said either tonight (last night) or sometime tomorrow (today). Before I hung up I said, "TJ, I love you so much." He didn't say anything. I was about to hang up when I heard him mumble, "Love-you-too-bye." And I've been crying and heart-broken ever since. He didn't call me last night, so he's either going to call me today or I will never hear from him again and I've just lost the love of my life.